How to Learn to Love Yourself and Your Body After Sexual Trauma
Fact is, survivors of sexual trauma have higher rates of experiencing addictions, eating disorders, serious health issues and of course PTSD symptoms and more. I know because I spent many years going through all sorts of health and emotional issues myself and thankfully I am here today to share hope, inspiration, wisdom and tools to help you along your path.
Survivors have a tendency to become ungrounded, be disconnected and “out of their bodies” and experience episodes of anxiety, reactive patterns, panic attacks and more. The body quite often can be perceived not as the beautiful miracle is it, but as something to be harmed, destroyed or battled with. Add on toxic emotions to the mix and you have a breeding ground for disease of both the mind and body.
Yoga and meditation became my saving grace to heal.
If you are a survivor of sexual trauma, the path to loving yourself may not be immediate, but do know that in time, when you plant the seeds in your garden of self love, before long your garden will bloom, and it will just be a matter of continuing to give it nourishment and pulling some weeds occasionally to keep it in full bloom. Here are some tips to help you learn to love yourself and your body and heal after sexual trauma:
1. Practice Loving Kindness Meditation.
This will help plant the seeds of kindness and compassion for yourself as you go along your path. It will also greatly help reduce stress on your mind and body and empower you to release toxic emotions from your heart that will help you move into health and wellness and away from stress and overwhelm.
2. Breathe and Get Into Your Body.
Whether you choose yoga or some other mind/body activity, it is important to be able to connect your breath with your body and turn on the relaxation response. This is why yoga is so powerful, as it does this and removes excess tension and stuck energy in the body to help facilitate healing. Grounding and restorative poses are especially helpful to help create a sense of safety and connection with the earth and your body when you can feel so disconnected and ungrounded. Learn how to use your breath and movement as a tool to become empoweredwithin your own mind and body.
3. Reach out and ask for support.
You don’t have to do this alone, you don’t have to live in silence or shame and you can have all you need to heal. You just have to be willing to ask and receive.
4. Drink plenty of pure filtered water and eat organic real, whole foods.
The more you put the good food in, the better you will feel and the clearer your mind will become. I know you may not feel like it, but trust me, just take that first step and eat some real food because it will start momentum in the way you need to go. Say a gratitude prayer before each meal and take a few deep breaths.
5. Thank your body.
Each morning show some love and gratitude to your body and before you go to bed at night, be sure to thank your body for all it did during the day. Your body responds to what your mind thinks. Thanks and gratitude will help change the cellular structure. Send your body love and it will bloom.
I hope this helps you find your way out of the darkness and into your light. It gets better. Believe and trust it will. I am leading a special workshop just for survivors in NYC on Saturday July 19th that you can find more info about on my website.
With lots of love,BY: Jody Mello
Jody Mello is a Certified Holistic Health Coach, 500 hr Certified Yoga Instructor, Meditation Teacher and Certified Reiki Practitioner. Her passion is empowering other women to heal themselves from the inside out by diving deep into their soul and healing the root cause of their health and emotional issues. After healing her own health and emotional issues holistically, including PTSD, anxiety, depression, disordered eating and pelvic issues, she aims to support other women to truly heal and love themselves on a deep level. She works with women who have a past history of sexual trauma that are experiencing health or emotional eating issues that wish to heal holistically on a deep spiritual level.